I Know What Fills My Cup, But How Do I Put It into Action?
Okay, so you've read my last blog post, answered the questions surrounding self-care and you've discovered what fills you up and gives you energy. The next step is implementing these self-care practices.
Self-care tips for parents
Now that you have taken the time to assess what fills you up, I want you to think about how to follow through and make time for those activities. Let's face it, life as a parent isn't always easy!
The first step is to make a list.
Put your chosen activities into different sections. Break them down into length of time and whether you will need a babysitter, etc. An example of this is:
Phone call with a friend
No sitter
5-30 min
I then like to identify who you might lean on for help during those activities that take a while. For instance:
Dinner with a friend
Need childcare (my partner, my mother, babysitter)
This will help with the next step.
Schedule in self-care
Let's open up your calendar. It's time to schedule it in! I know it might seem silly, especially for more minor activities, but putting plans in the diary is so important, as this increases the likelihood of following through with them.
We all know how easy it is to be sidetracked by everyday chores, social media, and 101 other distractions. So, try to schedule at least one small and one bigger activity per week. If that feels overwhelming, begin with just one small thing.
But what if you don't have the support to get out of the house or find time away at the moment? That's okay! You can still find self-care practices that will fill your cup.
Look at your list and find activities that can be accomplished from home, like Facetime with a friend or reading a book. Consider how you can incorporate those activities into your daily routine. Small moments of self-care can make a big difference, even from the comfort of your home.
Balance self-care at home around the kids
Seize opportunities during naptime, early mornings before the kids wake up, after they go to sleep at night, or during afternoon quiet time to prioritise your self-care practice.
Afternoon quiet time benefits children of all ages and can be easily established on weekdays after school or on weekends. It doesn't mean your child has to be bored. It's an excellent opportunity for them to spend time alone playing in their room, reading, drawing, and more. This will give you a chance to engage in self-care activities from your list, whether it's having a call with a friend, catching up on your favourite TV programme, or something else you enjoy. You'll be amazed at how much you can recharge your energy and fill your cup in a short amount of time.
Once you begin your self-care practice, I want you to take a few moments at the end of each week (or daily, if you engage daily) to reflect on how you are feeling.
Write down the things you did and how they made you feel. Do you find you are calmer and better equipped to handle challenging situations? Have you felt more able to give to your kids, friends, or partner?
I am incredibly proud of you for embracing this journey! Taking care of yourself and your well-being is vital, not only in parenting but in every aspect of life. Keep up the great work!
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